Parenting with Purpose. Passion. Power.

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I love being a parent. On most days.

Parenting is a full-time job, and this week is Appraisal Week.

I am meditating on what kind of parent I have been. How have I filled my hours as a stay-home mom? I have made several interesting (not necessarily comfortable) observations. I have a few thoughts I want to focus on through the second half of this year.

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1) Purpose.

I want to parent purposefully, not passively.

When we are home together, I do not want my Bunnies to run around like wild goats – at least not all of the time! We are homeschooling, and a schedule helps to keep life sane.

In the time we are together, at every available opportunity, I want to nurture happy hearts, personal discipline, creativity, a joy of learning, an eagerness to work, a love for humanity, a sense of breathless awe at creation.

I want to plant seeds in the hearts of my children. I want to sow love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

I am so thankful I can stay home with my kids so that I can use every possible moment in the day to sow these seeds – in word, in deed.

I can sow daily. I can water my newly planted seeds at the breakfast table and during butt-wipes. I can nurture the seedlings at read-aloud times.

Whenever I notice an ugly weed at any juncture, I can try to find out how it got there. I can pull it out, at the root, before it becomes unmanageable.

I want to parent, with purpose.

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2) Passion

To parent with purpose, I need passion. Passion is the necessary determination and drive to make purposes possible.

To what lengths am I willing to go to nurture the purposes in my child’s life?

I will put my career on hold during these formative years. It is generally agreed that the first 6 years of a child’s life, and particularly the first 3, are absolutely critical to his or her development. I will be available all I can.

I will strive to consistently model the values I want to sow, because children learn by example.

I will not be glued to my computer, even though I have recently developed a love relationship with it.

I will ensure I get enough rest and exercise (physically, mentally, emotionally, socially and spiritually), because a lack of all these produces fatigue. And fatigue for me = grumpiness = sad, sordid parenting story.

I will, because I have put my career on hold, live with the accompanying financial consequences. I will learn alternative ways of building an income, ingenious ways of stretching a budget and live happily without manicures.

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3) Power

I may be passionate. I may be willing. But will I be able?

Passion without power is useless. I need to be empowered so I can be the parent I want to be.

I don’t just need parenting books and Google, as if humanity could be boxed into fact sheets.

For all the challenges in parenting, I need self-understanding, I need self-control. I need the support of Sweet Man and the arms of our extended community of family and friends. And because I am a little weird, and just a wee bit zany, my needs and my own understanding of them can sometimes be a little complicated.

I need the power of God. Human nature is, by nature, fallible. I cannot always call, text or blog. Sometimes, the fog of my own undoing is too thick to see through.

I am glad that God is just a prayer away. He will never hang on me. He is good, inspite of me.

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My 5 years of parenting have flown by all too quickly. I have so much to celebrate. My littlest, Piglet, is only 6 months old. I have things – in me – that I want to change.

I am changing because of Purpose. Passion. Power.

I am looking forward to the ride.

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Linking up with Jenny Matlock’s Alphabe Thursday.

26 thoughts on “Parenting with Purpose. Passion. Power.

  1. Runnermom-jen

    Wonderful words of wisdom!! I had to laugh at the line about your children “running around like wild goats”…it sounds like my house, most of the time 😉

  2. mom2kiddos

    Beautiful inspiring post J! Is that the back of your head? Looks a lot like mine.

    I’ve also developed a love relationship with my blog and I have to constantly tell myself to walk away from it. I have to repurpose my parenting priorities. It’s so true that the 1st 6 years of a child’s life is the most important.

  3. Mama J

    If I had a beautiful, beautiful garden and open spaces around my house, I would love my children to run around like wild goats a lot of the time. Unfortunately we have very limited space, so I have to rein them in a little! Love the garden space I saw on your vlog!

  4. Mama J

    Yep, that’s the back of my head. I am wondering how long this can go on, posting photos of half a face, the back of heads, etc. I’d love my bloggy friends to see us as a family, but I also have concerns. I’ve been warned about security, and I guess I also have more than the normal security consciousness after working in my previous job. Do you worry about internet child predators and security issues about posting photos on the internet?

    I know what you mean – self-talking about the blog! I’m trying not to neglect my other jobs, but it’s hard to find a balance. There are lots of homeschooling tasks I need to look into, which I can only do at night, plus other research I have on my own personal portfolio. Blogging has to take a backseat most of the time ….

  5. Ames

    You sound like my daughter. Funny…she was an only child and now she has a house full of children, and she is happy!~Ames

  6. Jenny Matlock

    Wow.

    What a perfect link to the letter P. And such a good lesson for young parents.

    Parenting is not for sissies…your thoughts are really excellent. I hope you can find a way to get this out to many young Mom’s.

    Thanks for linking up.

    A+

  7. Mama J

    Ah ….. I have 1 brother, it’s just the two of us. I figured that it was still a little lonely, so I wanted a 3rd child. And now, crazy as it sounds, I want a 4th!

  8. Mama J

    Not for sissies, oh yeah. I’ve done some pretty hard work in my short life, but this is the hardest by far! Thanks for the encouragement! You’re the perfect hostess, Jenny.

  9. lulu

    and guess what, parenting never ends! My daughter has just had a baby and with 3 little ones under 2, she needs help so even when you think your job is done, it’s not. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed your ramblings and appreciate your visit. Come again.

  10. Mama J

    3 little ones under 2? Wow! You are so blessed! I would love to help my daughter with her babies 😉 Thank you for your recent post about beginnings and endings, your faithfulness to your mom in her old age is so inspiring.

  11. Jessica

    Very good things to live by. I think I need to work better on the passion part. I know I spend a little too much time on my computer. It’s hard for me to find balance.

  12. Mama J

    I’m trying to find balance too. It’s tough when I find myself wanting to do everything, and now trying to learn twitter too!

  13. Marcelo

    Useful information. Lucky me I discovered your web site accidentally, and I’m shocked why this twist of fate didn’t came about earlier!
    I bookmarked it.

  14. Jennice

    I love how u r determined to get exactly want out of your parenting experience. It is very inspring! Stopping by from #SITSsharefest

  15. Jin Ai

    Thank you. Sometimes it’s because of failure that the only possible option remaining is determination to get the act together 🙂

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