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I finally took the plunge and decided to move to a self-hosted Mama Hear Me Roar WordPress blog.

I also decided to take a leap from anonymity as Mama J to my real name.

Because – and here’s my deepest, darkest secret – because I’ve been feeling ashamed of who I am as a stay home/work at home mom.

There. I said it.

It’s taken “a whole lot of balls”, as someone said recently, for me to do what I’m doing. I’ve sacrificed a lot. I’ve endured a lot of negativity and criticism for wasting my life. And recently I’ve had to endure a lot of bullshit (saying it for what it is) about our deciding to have a 4th baby and not work full time outside the home.

I’m done.

I’m over with cringing.

I’m standing up and thumbing down the pressure of the norm. And I’m finally feeling comfortable in my own skin as Mama Hear Me Roar.

I’m saying that everything I’ve learned, everything I’ve worked at before, and every experience I’ve had outside the home has prepared me for the hardest job in the world – at home motherhood. You can read more about my background at my new About page on the new site.

I’m also saying that our decision to have a 4th baby is what it is – a decision, not an accident (!), although some people may still find that hard to believe. I cannot comprehend why the number of babies that people choose to have can be such a hot topic.

I can perhaps understand why some people might find it shocking, primarily because it isn’t what most families want these days.

But my grandmother had 10 kids. That was just 2 generations ago and I think my mother’s huge extended family is pretty cool.

And I think that to move beyond “shocked” (a natural reaction to something viewed as unique) to gossip and speculation, is a low-lying, cruel thing for people to do. Go play Bingo, if you haven’t anything else to do but wonder about the details of other people’s nocturnal activities.

So here I am. My feet’s firmly on my ground and I ain’t moving a particle, except for this blog.

I’m celebrating motherhood.

I’m celebrating my children as gifts from heaven.

And I’m celebrating all that I have been, can be, and will be for them.

So please hop over to my new place and poke around. Sorry if things are a little slow, but that’s because it was a DIY migration (a gazillion thanks to Sweet Man) and I haven’t worked out all the teething issues yet.

Thank you so much for following along! Your encouragement means so much to me.


  • Ing
    June 23, 2013 4:50 pm

    Congratulations on the lovely new site! And hurray for standing up for what you believe in! Write on, and roar, mama Jin Ai! 🙂
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  • Jin Ai
    June 24, 2013 1:08 pm

    Thank you!

  • Natalie
    July 8, 2013 2:27 am

    You go girl! Don’t worry about those haters!
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