Life in 2 months

Do you sometimes get the feeling that life is overtaking you?

The last couple of months, I did.

During my recent pregnancy check up at 25 weeks, I found I’d gained 4 kgs in 4 weeks. Four kilos! I’ve been pregnant 3 times before, but I’ve never gained at a rate as quickly as this.

Not that I worry about getting fat (the least of my concerns), but that explains why I’ve been feeling so heavy of late.

And why every time I perform a task, I feel like an elephant is sitting on top of me.

Every effort at the sink to wash dishes and every bend at the countertop to fix snacks and prepare meals has been giving me a backache. I try keeping good posture most of the time but when I’m doing kitchen work as often as I do, I suppose some strain becomes inevitable.

It feels that much more exhausting, trying to get to the park every morning, loading the stroller and lifting two-and-a-half year old Piglet into his car seat.

Then there are those familiar, excruciating leg cramps that wake me up at night and keep me awake for quite awhile after.

Interrupted sleep, trying to turn my torpedo-shaped belly over, trying to get back to sleep again.

Then, waking to another full day of homeschooling and homemaking.

This was considered an artistic venture by our little people. Makes me go "Oooo!" and "Aaargh!" at the same time

This was considered an artistic venture by our little people. Makes me go “Oooo!” and “Aaargh!” at the same time

And going through it over, and over, and over again.

So I said “no” to blogging and social media until I felt my engine had recovered enough.

Saying “no” isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Because sometimes even the good things can bog us down. The good can become the enemy of the best.

Doing my duty to our family and being cheerful about it hasn’t always – and still isn’t – the easiest thing.

On many days I feel like turning into a green monster at some point. Like when there is a pee-pee mess in the toilet I just cleaned, or when someone is “trying to poo” on someone else when I’m spending just a few minutes trying to clear my inbox. For crying out loud!

After a strenuous July, August began with a lot of griping on my part. Then it proceeded to the realisation that I could either make the worst of the next few months or turn them into the best times to remember.

Most importantly, I woke up again to the fact that complaining is a grevious injury to a God who is always good. Always.

God has blessed me with all those little things in life that go mostly unnoticed under the radar of today’s fast-paced, instant-food, career-centered, technology-centered existence.

The delight of many beautiful mornings, dry and wet, outdoors with little ones. Hunting for snails. Doing primate exercises. Soaking up wondrous Vitamin D and fresh air. Playing frisbee and play pretend ship.

Lamb's regular pull-up challenge

Lamb’s regular pull-up challenge

Learning how to make kefir and watching everyone get a good kick out of germs. If you haven’t heard of kefir and its amazing health benefits, check out this link.

Kefir before it is strained. Chilled kefir is a wonderfully refreshing nightcap before bedtime

Kefir before it is strained. Chilled kefir is a wonderfully refreshing nightcap before bedtime. Puppy says it tastes like “beer”. Piglet loves lifting his kefir glass and shouting “Tips!!!” (a.k.a. “Cheers!”)

Finding satisfaction in more things homemade like yogurt cheese, wholewheat thins, cheese biscuits, banana tea loaves, and learning how to make my bread nice and fluffy.

Wholewheat thins topped with yogurt cheese. These can be addictive!

Wholewheat thins topped with yogurt cheese. These can be addictive!

Ice lollies (20Aug13)

Yogurt ice lollies with cranberries and chocolate bits

Stepping out of ourselves to share joy with others – facilitating a 7-week Marriage Course, supporting Sweet Man in planning a Family Camp for a great bunch of people, and connecting with parents at a Focus on the Family parenting talk 2 weeks ago.

Parenting? I was a whole bunch of nerves because Sweet Man and I feel so raw and green to be presenting on such a subject, but apparently it went well. There was even a reader of this blog in the audience. Yikes! Who knew? Our topic was “Love Them, and Let Them Know”.

Making origami with the kids on wet evenings.

These brought back fond memories of one of our favourite Sonlight read alouds, Mr Popper’s Penguins

These brought back fond memories of one of our favourite Sonlight read alouds, Mr Popper’s Penguins

There have been other good things.

Returning to a fresh dependency on God who makes all things possible. When the Hulk begins emerging from the depths within, there is nothing more needed than a miracle via a lightning bolt prayer.

Watching Piglet’s growing independence, self esteem and joy in accomplishing tasks.

Piglet brushes his own teeth in the mornings, takes his dirty dishes to the sink, unloads the dryer, buckles himself up in the car seat and insists he is ready for Jolly Phonics

Piglet brushes his own teeth in the mornings, takes his dirty dishes to the sink, unloads the dryer, buckles himself up in the car seat and insists he is ready for Jolly Phonics

Feeling a reemergence of pregnancy nausea because of fatigue but being inspired by child-drawn love notes on a difficult morning when I want to stay another 2 hours in bed.

Reorganising homeschool supplies, putting our upstairs in order again after our house tenant finished her term, and tweaking our home schedule to make it work better for everyone.

Our new homeschool Focus Board. I’ll share it soon in an upcoming post

Our new homeschool Focus Board. I’ll share it soon in an upcoming post

Life’s been tiring. But oh so good.

Note to self: Remember that. Everyday.

 

What are some things that have kept you going?

23 thoughts on “Life in 2 months

  1. Christine@theAums

    Oh to be pregnant with #5! Belated congratulations by the way. I loved reading this…sighed a bit at remembering the ups and downs of growing a baby and raising other babies, nodded at getting it- the homeschooling, the homemaking, the EVERYTHING. You are amazing! Your heart’s in the right place for this journey and I wish you rest and energy.

  2. Jin Ai Post author

    Thanks so much Christine! I have missed reading so many blogs over the past couple of months. You and your family have been one of those who have inspired me to look at the big picture and hang in there! After your comment, I had to edit this post: pregnant 3 times before this (not 4), so it’s baby #4 now 🙂 We’re now on par, ha ….

  3. IrishMum

    We all feel like that from time to time, I am glad to see you are felling better. Forgot the blogs and the net, they will always be there, but your kids will only be young once. Enjoy them now 🙂 Baby no 4, congrats!
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  4. newtorontomom

    I hear you.
    With this pregnancy, I am also exhausted all the time. In fact, my blood pressure is also low and my hemoglobin is borderline low – so it looks like low iron is the culprit. I now only need to find the energy to get to a store and buy iron supplement!

  5. Jennifer

    Hi mama JA,
    I love your blog. Hope you are doing well with pregnancy. Love all the activities you are doing with the kids. It makes me feel like I am slacking but also motivates me to so more stuff with my boys! My no. 2 is same age at Piglet and he still poops in his pants! So, give yourself a break and just put your feet up for a while… or until the little ones shout ‘mommy…. wake up!’
    I love your focus board!! so ‘focussed’.

  6. Stacey

    I love this! Life can be absolutely exhausting at times. But you are right. God is always good. And when we remember that, life seems a little less exhausting somehow. Great post!
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  7. Jin Ai Post author

    I have low blood pressure too. Maybe I need to check my hemoglobin level. Congrats on the new pregnancy!

  8. Jin Ai Post author

    Thank you for your kind, uplifting words. Encouragement goes a long way!
    Pregnancy this time is harder than before. I think it’s because I’m older and have 3 minions running about, haha! I was really struggling with kids activities the first 5 months when I felt sick all the time, so when I started feeling a little better I really went all out to get things back in shape again. Slack when you have to, absolutely!

  9. Jin Ai Post author

    Thank you! I was reminded to keep looking up, not down or around. And that perspective makes all the difference.

  10. June

    I feel you, Jin Ai. Been feeling like I’ve suddenly grown over the past two weeks, like a spurt or something. Haha. Thanks for this post on keeping things in perspective, yes despite how we feel or how down we are, God is always unchangingly and unwaveringly good. Hope the rest of pregnancy goes smoothly for both of us! 🙂
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  11. Ing

    Love this post! With only 3 and not pregnant, I am already totally exhausted everyday before the day ends. I can’t imagine how you still managed to get so much done! And yes, blogging / social media can wait. Once, I stopped blogging totally for about 6 months when my family went through some upheavals and I just wanted to focus on my hubby and kids. Hang in there, and enjoy this phase of your life and pregnancy!
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  12. Jin Ai Post author

    Thank you so much! I cheat by resorting to much of that Useless Thing called Free Play 🙂 Hang in there too, my friend!

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  15. shia

    Hi jin ai,

    Would like like how long do u brew the kefir? 24 hours? And what milk do u use? My ds doesn’t like the kefir. He prefers yogurt. Our kefir is sourish, but not alcoholic. Taste more like sour milk, or milk that has gone bad.

  16. Jin Ai Post author

    I use pasteurised milk. Usually, it’s ready to strain after brewing for 12 hours or so, but I don’t have the time. I also don’t want to keep buying more milk. So I brew for 24 hours. We don’t need more volume than that anyway. Our kefir is sourer than if I were to brew for only 12 hours, but we enjoy the taste nonetheless – adults and kids. It’s “like” alcohol (with a nice punch) but not alcoholic 🙂 I don’t think ours tastes like bad/sour milk, but then again, taste is a subjective matter …

    To make it more palatable for ds, how about drizzling with honey and adding fresh or dried fruit? My kids drink kefir neat as they like it that way, but they also enjoy yogurt with honey and fruit.

  17. Jin Ai Post author

    Oh yes, I am told that if you use raw milk (unpasteurised), the kefir is best left for longer to brew. About 24 hours, not less.

  18. shia

    thank u jin ai.

    i brew my kefir for 24 hours too. and i will keep his share of kefir in the fridge, and drizzle with honey and throw in some soft fruits sometimes. serving it like a yogurt.

    im looking forward to him loving the kefir one day, without being forced 🙂

    thanks. anyway all the best, 1 more month to go! 🙂

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