I’m Jin Ai, married to one Sweet Man and we have four children, Puppy (11), Lamb (9), Piglet (6) and Roo (3). Our kids fancy themselves the Malaysian edition of The Famous Five – four children and one very black mongrel, Pegs.
Here we are.
B.C. (before children), I trained as a lawyer, worked at UNHCR and then went back to study full time. I never thought I’d dream of domesticity or what is commonly known as the “at home mom” business. The real action was out there, the real need was out there. I had no intention of wasting my time or education.
But here I am in the thick of full time, hands-on mothering, and not looking back.
My days are now filled with endless clean-ups, teaching in our preschool homeschool, breastfeeding, cloth diapering and just being available. 24/7.
I surprised even myself.
Motherhood is the most difficult, yet most rewarding job I’ve ever had. There are moments I’ve wanted to strangle myself. There are times I’ve wanted to hang up the apron and return to pencil skirts.
But I’ll never give up.
Because? Motherhood is No Small Thing.
“How can it be a large career to tell other people’s children about the Rule of Three, and a small career to tell one’s own children about the universe?
How can it be broad to be the same thing to everyone, and narrow to be everything to someone? No. A woman’s function is laborious, but because it is gigantic, not because it is minute. I will pity Mrs. Jones for the hugeness of her task; I will never pity her for its smallness.”
When I’m not mothering, writing elsewhere or working freelance, I’m glad for this little space where I can share stories about motherhood.
About the joys, the exhaustion, the highs and lows of the roller coaster ride.
About the memories I want to keep for our children.
About what we want our children to know about personal responsibility and living for those in way more difficult situations than we are.
I love how our lives as mothers can intersect across the Web, because there’s been more than one beserk day when I’ve stumbled upon another mama’s blog post, when I’ve followed someone else’s story, when an encouraging comment’s been left here, that my spirits are lifted, that I know other mothers have been there.
And I’m determined to get up and put my hand to the plough once again.
So please hang around. With a cuppa.
Because I think Mothers shouldn’t be boxed in. And there’s always some dark chocolate stashed somewhere.
If you’re curious ….
- The incident that started me blogging: Puppy’s Revelation.
- Why I chose stay-home/work-at-home motherhood: The Road To Greatness Begins At Home and The Power of Stay Home Motherhood.
If you’d like to connect ….
- Email me at mamahearmeroar(at)gmail(dot)com.