Recently I have been pondering about the time we spend with our children.
We spend a lot. Apart from the older two being away at school for a few hours and a couple of hours with grandparents once a week, we are all together the rest of the time.
But time together or jointly participating in activities doesn’t necessarily mean connection. Connection requires empathy, a willingness to put aside preconceived notions and being open to discover all there is to learn about the other person.
In the past eight years of being a stay-home mama I have discovered that connecting at a heart level with children takes a lot of effort. Even babies need that. If we mothers are to be more than event organisers, drivers, cooks, cleaners (you could add to the list of unending practicalities!) we need to connect.
Lee Wee Min, Executive Director of Focus on the Family Malaysia, has this to say about connection and spending time with children, and I couldn’t agree with him more. In the context of an upcoming event, he refers to sons, although I am sure he would apply the same to daughters:
“In our daily lives, so many things seem to crowd into the schedule we have with our sons. It is so important that we spend time with them for the purpose of bonding, nurturing and imparting of our values and beliefs.”
I’m excited FOFM is organising a Mother & Son Connection event, happening soon, a unique bonding session specially designed for mothers with sons from ages 8 to 13.
What’s it about?
According to Focus, “As mothers are usually the primary caregiver and educator in the family, it’s crucial that there be a healthy relationship between a mother and her son. This helps the son to create the blueprint for intimacy for his future relationships with others, especially his wife. A strong nurturing role model will give him a strong secure base that will help boost his self-esteem and confidence.
The event will provide mothers and their sons with the opportunity to experience more of each other, and learn practical ways to strengthen their bond. The half-day program will feature a meaningful session on understanding and communicating with one another amidst fun games and a cooking session.”
Date: 2 August 2014, Saturday
Time: 1.30 – 6.30 pm
Cost: RM130 per pair
Age requirement: Sons to be between the ages of 8 – 13
Venue: Tropicana Golf & Country Resort, Petaling Jaya, Selangor Darul Ehsan
To view more program details and FOFM’s registration form for this event, click here.
How to register?
Register online at www.family.org.my or call 03-7954 7920 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
With icebreakers, a talk entitled “Ingredients to a Healthy Relationship”, games, a hearty meal and prizes, the event looks like a great opportunity for mothers and sons alike. I’d definitely like to participate when Lamb turns 8!
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Focus on the Family Malaysia (FOFM) is a non-profit organisation with a clear vision to strengthen families. It helps families to thrive by providing family content, relevant resources, effective events and programs, and counseling help.