You know when you’re trying to get your kids to do something, and you find yourself asking them not just once, but twice, and then goodness knows how many more times? When I started on this journey of parenting, I told myself I would never let that happen to me. Well, over time, it did. Hah! So much for this hoity-toity.
Over the past weekend, Sweet Man and I learned something so wonderfully important that I just had to write a post about it.
“FIRST TIME, WITH A SMILE!”
It works something like this –
#1: Have a Family Table Talk where all members of the family are present without any distractions.
#2: Explain to the Child that “First time, with a smile!” means that when Dad or Mom wants the child to do (or not to do) something, the child must obey at the very first time he/she hears the instruction, and obey with a smile. It also means that when Dad or Mom asks the Child to do something, Dad or Mom will ask only once, in a decent way, with a smile (also!). Dad or Mom will not plead, or do any cajoling, nagging or shouting. Children must respect what Dad and Mom say at the very first instance.
#3: Try this immediately. Make sure you have the child’s full and complete attention first. Then instruct him accordingly. (Eg. Please put away your toy.)
#4: End the instruction with the phrase, “Now remember – first time, with a smile!” Then, smile at your child! (Try to smile!)
#5: If the child deliberately disobeys, do not start to plead, nag or shout. Mete out the consequences, such as sitting in a Time-Out corner, or withholding a privilege you know the child enjoys.
We did this on Saturday, Sunday and today, and the results have been amazing. There is so much more peace, understanding and obedience! Happy heart for everyone!!!
I hope this will last!
Have you tried this before in your family? How is it working for you? What kind of other ways are you using to train your child in obedience?