Beyond the sharks. Plus anger issues.

You remember we made shark teeth recently.

Well, here we have something else from the same batch of clay dough. It looks like a weapon, does it not?

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This past week I have been down on my knees a lot more as squabbles between the Bunnies have been coming to a head. (Driving me up the wall, that is.) They are cute, but on some days I do feel like leaving them out on the line to dry.

(Secret fact: I finally washed these today. After 6 months!)

..I have been reading a book entitled Healthy Anger: How to Help Children and Teens Manage Their Anger, by Bernard Golden. I am learning a lot about myself first. Surprise, surprise!

This is helping us.

But down on my knees praying to the Only-One-Who-Can-Change-Hearts definitely hits the spot. What will I ever do without you, God!!!

Let me know if you want a wee summary of what I’ve been learning from the book. I will, when I am done ….uh…. endeavour to share the essential points ….. And how it’s helping us in the context of my oh-so-unperfect-but-yet-i-love-it mothering life.

And you will know that I’m no supermom (what IS that??), and my Bunnies aren’t pretty always (although today they were really quite GOOD), and you might faint if you saw some of their punk-ish acts.

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Today is our 11th Wedding Anniversary. I feel like we just met! (in a … nice way)

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This has been such a disjointed post. The laundry and lesson plans are distracting me.

Thank you so much to those who have been commenting on my posts. Your words and kind thoughts mean so much to me!

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8 thoughts on “Beyond the sharks. Plus anger issues.

  1. mom2kiddos

    Oh please do share – would love to learn more about that. Yes, it would be nice to hang them out like that sometimes, for a little time out.

  2. Ingrid Wilson

    A book review sounds wonderful! I know I have a lot to learn on the topic! A lot!
    Just think though while they learn conflict resoloution skill at home (by practice) they will cope much better later in life when conflicts arrise!
    Happy Anniversary! Hope you are doind something special to celebrate!

  3. Mama J

    So true, Ingrid. Thanks for the wishes. We haven’t celebrated yet, bathroom plumbing and tiling work are keeping us occupied. Our bedroom is a wee bit sandy. Life!

  4. Mei

    A belated Happy Anniversary to you and Sweet Man. Yes, I too would absolutely LOVE if you could share some of the lessons learnt from the book re anger management. Sad to say that my 2nd lil monkey (who I love dearly but who tries my patience on an almost daily basis) appears to have serious anger management issues and this mummy is at a lost on how to deal with it.

  5. Mama J

    Hello you! Thanks for the wishes. I’m making progress with the book, so you might see a post on the topic soon.

    For now, I’d say the most important lesson I’ve learned so far is that anger is a NATURAL human emotion, so we shouldn’t feel it’s a sign of serious emotional disturbance.

    Anger often points to an underlying cause – thoughts and emotions (eg. hurt, disappointment, insecurity, frustration) which evoke feelings of anger. As parents, we do not need to fear anger. Rather, the question we must ask is: What does my child’s external display of anger (his angry behaviour) tell me about his inner thoughts and emotions?

    I am now on a wonderful journey of learning more about my Bunnies – myself included. It’s a struggle to face their anger, but I’m learning to view such situations as a positive opportunity to understand and CONNECT at a deeper level with them.

  6. Mei

    Thanks, Mama J. You are indeed wise 🙂 Yes, agree that anger is a natural emotion but I guess I worry about the ways that he expresses his anger as he tends to get very physical – from throwing things to hitting (sometimes). He seems unable or unwillling to vocalise the reasons why he gets angry and it seems we need to be more patient with him and learn to coax him to talk more freely about his emotions – not always easy to do when you’re ticked off at him for throwing a tantrum, I must admit! Definitely a journey of learning and discovery….

  7. Mama J

    Not my wisdom, Bernard Golden’s (author of “Healthy Anger”). Anger in boys? I’m hoping to get to that part in the book soon. Apparently it helps for us to vocalise our emotions, so they can follow our example. You’re so right – not easy when we’re ticked off!

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