Delight

We sit below the window and the morning sunlight streams in. His smile is so broad and his eyes all crinkled up they turn my heart in a million directions and I know why children are a blessing.

Even in these mundane moments.

She sleeps in her cot next to us and I gaze at Piglet, his fringe getting into his eyes and his hands digging into the laundry.

I nod my head towards Roo, put my finger to my lips and Piglet smiles. A comfortable silence descends on us and I think again children are a blessing.

My itch to throw the predictibility of our routine to the wind is scratched away gradually as we put our heads together and I show him how to fold squares and triangles and tell him it’s okay his doesn’t look like mine.

Nappies

He gets busy and happy with his pile and I laugh secretly inside with the joy of watching him.

The joy of my boy, my gift from heaven.

The joy of rediscovering and relearning the pleasure of simple work.

The joy of knowing my heavenly Father delights in me – as I do in Piglet – because I belong to Him and not because of how well I fold laundry.

The mess of cottony nappies dwindles and transforms into neat stacks and we shake hands.

Thumbs up. Hug and kiss.

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Piglet (3.6yo), Roo (7mos)

Focus on the Family: Father & Daughter Brunch Date

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Focus on the Family Malaysia is organising a Father & Daughter Brunch Date as a special day for fathers and daughters to spend time together over a meal – one to one.

This unique bonding event is specially designed for fathers with teenage daughters from ages 13 to 19.

 

What’s it about?

Lee Wee Min, Executive Director of FOFM says, “At Focus on the Family, we believe that every father can make a difference in his daughter’s life.” He adds that the activities and time spent at this special event will give fathers a chance to affirm his love for his daughter, reassure her as a young woman, as well as to connect and bond with her. Dr. Kevin Leman, a well-known psychologist and author believes that “If there’s one man who matters in a woman’s life, it’s her father.”

FOFM believes that as the primary male role model in a girl’s life, fathers influence their daughters in profound ways, from how they see themselves to what they come to expect from men and the world at large. Especially as girls move into adolescence, fathers may find themselves feeling distant from their daughters or awkward with the changing dynamic. Communication becomes difficult and parenting issues more complicated. But this is also the time when daughters most need their fathers to be an even greater presence in their lives.

“We hope that every father will take time out to spend a special day with their daughter and explore the tremendous rewards this relationship can bring,” said Lee.

 

Event Details

Date: 13th September 2014, Saturday

Time: 10.30 am to 2.00 pm

Cost: RM 180 per pair

Age Requirement: Daughters to be between the ages of 13 – 19

Venue: Tropicana Golf & Country Resort, Petaling Jaya, Selangor Darul Ehsan

To view more program details and FOFM’s registration form for this event, click here.

 

How to register?

Register online at www.family.org.my or call 03-7954 7920 or email focus@family.org.my.

 

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Focus on the Family Malaysia (FOFM) is a non-profit organisation with a clear vision to strengthen families. It helps families to thrive by providing family content, relevant resources, effective events and programs, and counseling help.

Focus on the Family Malaysia: Mother & Son Connection event

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Recently I have been pondering about the time we spend with our children.

We spend a lot. Apart from the older two being away at school for a few hours and a couple of hours with grandparents once a week, we are all together the rest of the time.

But time together or jointly participating in activities doesn’t necessarily mean connection. Connection requires empathy, a willingness to put aside preconceived notions and being open to discover all there is to learn about the other person.

In the past eight years of being a stay-home mama I have discovered that connecting at a heart level with children takes a lot of effort. Even babies need that. If we mothers are to be more than event organisers, drivers, cooks, cleaners (you could add to the list of unending practicalities!) we need to connect.

Lee Wee Min, Executive Director of Focus on the Family Malaysia, has this to say about connection and spending time with children, and I couldn’t agree with him more. In the context of an upcoming event, he refers to sons, although I am sure he would apply the same to daughters:

“In our daily lives, so many things seem to crowd into the schedule we have with our sons. It is so important that we spend time with them for the purpose of bonding, nurturing and imparting of our values and beliefs.”

I’m excited FOFM is organising a Mother & Son Connection event, happening soon, a unique bonding session specially designed for mothers with sons from ages 8 to 13.

What’s it about?

According to Focus, “As mothers are usually the primary caregiver and educator in the family, it’s crucial that there be a healthy relationship between a mother and her son. This helps the son to create the blueprint for intimacy for his future relationships with others, especially his wife. A strong nurturing role model will give him a strong secure base that will help boost his self-esteem and confidence.

The event will provide mothers and their sons with the opportunity to experience more of each other, and learn practical ways to strengthen their bond. The half-day program will feature a meaningful session on understanding and communicating with one another amidst fun games and a cooking session.”

 

Event Details

Date: 2 August 2014, Saturday

Time: 1.30 – 6.30 pm

Cost: RM130 per pair

Age requirement: Sons to be between the ages of 8 – 13

Venue: Tropicana Golf & Country Resort, Petaling Jaya, Selangor Darul Ehsan

To view more program details and FOFM’s registration form for this event, click here.

 

How to register?

Register online at www.family.org.my or call 03-7954 7920 or email focus@family.org.my

 

With icebreakers, a talk entitled “Ingredients to a Healthy Relationship”, games, a hearty meal and prizes, the event looks like a great opportunity for mothers and sons alike. I’d definitely like to participate when Lamb turns 8!

If you know of friends who might be interested in this event, please share this post. Thank you!

 

Focus on the Family Malaysia (FOFM) is a non-profit organisation with a clear vision to strengthen families. It helps families to thrive by providing family content, relevant resources, effective events and programs, and counseling help.