Focus on the Family: Father & Daughter Brunch Date

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Focus on the Family Malaysia is organising a Father & Daughter Brunch Date as a special day for fathers and daughters to spend time together over a meal – one to one.

This unique bonding event is specially designed for fathers with teenage daughters from ages 13 to 19.

 

What’s it about?

Lee Wee Min, Executive Director of FOFM says, “At Focus on the Family, we believe that every father can make a difference in his daughter’s life.” He adds that the activities and time spent at this special event will give fathers a chance to affirm his love for his daughter, reassure her as a young woman, as well as to connect and bond with her. Dr. Kevin Leman, a well-known psychologist and author believes that “If there’s one man who matters in a woman’s life, it’s her father.”

FOFM believes that as the primary male role model in a girl’s life, fathers influence their daughters in profound ways, from how they see themselves to what they come to expect from men and the world at large. Especially as girls move into adolescence, fathers may find themselves feeling distant from their daughters or awkward with the changing dynamic. Communication becomes difficult and parenting issues more complicated. But this is also the time when daughters most need their fathers to be an even greater presence in their lives.

“We hope that every father will take time out to spend a special day with their daughter and explore the tremendous rewards this relationship can bring,” said Lee.

 

Event Details

Date: 13th September 2014, Saturday

Time: 10.30 am to 2.00 pm

Cost: RM 180 per pair

Age Requirement: Daughters to be between the ages of 13 – 19

Venue: Tropicana Golf & Country Resort, Petaling Jaya, Selangor Darul Ehsan

To view more program details and FOFM’s registration form for this event, click here.

 

How to register?

Register online at www.family.org.my or call 03-7954 7920 or email focus@family.org.my.

 

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Focus on the Family Malaysia (FOFM) is a non-profit organisation with a clear vision to strengthen families. It helps families to thrive by providing family content, relevant resources, effective events and programs, and counseling help.

Focus on the Family Malaysia: Mother & Son Connection event

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Recently I have been pondering about the time we spend with our children.

We spend a lot. Apart from the older two being away at school for a few hours and a couple of hours with grandparents once a week, we are all together the rest of the time.

But time together or jointly participating in activities doesn’t necessarily mean connection. Connection requires empathy, a willingness to put aside preconceived notions and being open to discover all there is to learn about the other person.

In the past eight years of being a stay-home mama I have discovered that connecting at a heart level with children takes a lot of effort. Even babies need that. If we mothers are to be more than event organisers, drivers, cooks, cleaners (you could add to the list of unending practicalities!) we need to connect.

Lee Wee Min, Executive Director of Focus on the Family Malaysia, has this to say about connection and spending time with children, and I couldn’t agree with him more. In the context of an upcoming event, he refers to sons, although I am sure he would apply the same to daughters:

“In our daily lives, so many things seem to crowd into the schedule we have with our sons. It is so important that we spend time with them for the purpose of bonding, nurturing and imparting of our values and beliefs.”

I’m excited FOFM is organising a Mother & Son Connection event, happening soon, a unique bonding session specially designed for mothers with sons from ages 8 to 13.

What’s it about?

According to Focus, “As mothers are usually the primary caregiver and educator in the family, it’s crucial that there be a healthy relationship between a mother and her son. This helps the son to create the blueprint for intimacy for his future relationships with others, especially his wife. A strong nurturing role model will give him a strong secure base that will help boost his self-esteem and confidence.

The event will provide mothers and their sons with the opportunity to experience more of each other, and learn practical ways to strengthen their bond. The half-day program will feature a meaningful session on understanding and communicating with one another amidst fun games and a cooking session.”

 

Event Details

Date: 2 August 2014, Saturday

Time: 1.30 – 6.30 pm

Cost: RM130 per pair

Age requirement: Sons to be between the ages of 8 – 13

Venue: Tropicana Golf & Country Resort, Petaling Jaya, Selangor Darul Ehsan

To view more program details and FOFM’s registration form for this event, click here.

 

How to register?

Register online at www.family.org.my or call 03-7954 7920 or email focus@family.org.my

 

With icebreakers, a talk entitled “Ingredients to a Healthy Relationship”, games, a hearty meal and prizes, the event looks like a great opportunity for mothers and sons alike. I’d definitely like to participate when Lamb turns 8!

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Focus on the Family Malaysia (FOFM) is a non-profit organisation with a clear vision to strengthen families. It helps families to thrive by providing family content, relevant resources, effective events and programs, and counseling help.

The rat

Since my last post, we’ve been busy with traveling, the mid-year spring clean (I’m allergic to dust that’s why) and kicking back over two and a half weeks of school holidays. Now I don’t even know where to start.

How about a story?

Well, about a month ago, Pegs caught a rat.

Pegs, our dog. Not another kid you didn’t know we had. Ha!

How did I know? I was still in the throes of heavy slumber just before the break of dawn when Sweet Man shook my shoulder and broke the news in a low whisper.

Forget the front page. This kind of thing makes headlines over here.

Pegs had left it in the middle of our driveway – the mangled body, pretty much intact in most respects. Except for its guts. They had spewed out at the lower section of the body where Pegs had nipped it.

I didn’t bother getting out of bed to see it. No way. I was intent on reclaiming a few minutes of shut eye after having awakened to nurse Roo a few times in the middle of the night.

In any event, I could always rely on detailed descriptions from the kids.

Sweet Man said not to worry about the mess and went to clean up. I’m glad I can always leave guts and gore to him. Give me Roo’s soiled nappies any day.

I stretched in bed with bleary eyes and was about to snuggle back down again with Roo still sleeping next to me when Lamb burst into the room. My little guy doesn’t walk. He runs, leaps, jumps, crawls. He is a tornado, a whirlwind in the house. Floor mats get cast aside in the wake of his path. That is why we need Afternoon Quiet Time and lots of the outdoors.

Mama, Mama, Mama! You’ll never guess what Pegs did! She caught a rat!!!

The exuberance! The breathlessness! A whisper so loud that Roo awoke. Forget more sleep.

Ummmm. I turned on my side and saw dark, shining eyes and clasping hands.

Did you see the rat? Up close?

Oh yes, Mama. Pegs bit its penis! (I think it was this bit that truly woke me up.) Its guts came out like this, spwwshhhhh…..

Boy, I just love those details.

Lamb nestled close to me. I’m so glad I’m not that rat. All chewed up!

With that, he bounced out of bed, out of the room and hurtled down the stairs.

Sweet Man mooted the idea of getting a cat to live indoors.

You can probably guess what I said to that, can’t you?

We’ll just have to continue with the status quo. Sweet Man, the Rat Catcher!

I had his permission for this one, and yes, that IS a fishing net

I had his permission for this one, and yes, that IS a fishing net

Whenever there is a hungry, housebound rodent, my job for the most part is to deal with mess and destruction in the mornings. Tis not an easy feat. It gives me white hairs. (I also have four children now, remember?) Thankfully this has happened only three times. Thankfully also, upon discovery all I have to do is stand by, wield a stick behind a makeshift barricade and scream murder at the top of my lungs while Sweet Man does the running and smashing.

A kitchen without a door is nice and fancy, but not quite when there's a rat in it

A kitchen without a door is nice and fancy, but not quite when there’s a rat in it

Rat traps don’t seem to work. Maybe we haven’t been setting them up right.

I hope we never have to do that again. Not ever.

Certainly not at 2.00am when the job involves moving kitchen cabinets, putting up chairs and I’m halfway nursing Roo. On that occasion (aforementioned) I had to lay her quickly in a basket and grab a stick.

Roo: Just 1.5mos

Poor Roo! Barely 1.5mos

She slept through all our whoops and yells!